“Where You Left Them” is the podcast from dadhugsforyoursoul, the relationship repair and self-help phenomenon run by Harry on social media, with tens of millions of views each month.
dadhugsforyoursoul has helped thousands of people to solve their painful relationships, walk away from the wrong partner situations and - most of all - build themselves up with practical advice they can carry into more fruitful relationships in the future.
“Where You Left Them” makes those relationship stories and Harry’s advice even more real. This podcast gives you honest stories - extraordinary stories - and shares Harry’s insights, live.
Our story this week comes from Chloe and - as so often - it’s one that will feel familiar to many of us: Chloe and her partner, Josh, are a couple who were moving comfortably towards marriage and starting a family, living in their first home together, working hard to make their dreams a reality. Everything seemed right. But when Josh gets a promotion, things change, Chloe takes a back seat as his career fills his life. It often happens - and we often choose to temporarily make way for a partner's career, especially if it means more money for family and home. But when Josh's focus shifts from work to a colleague, however, their relationship changes - and it’s not just the house renovations which grind to a halt. Listen in to find out what happens.
In a world where we're all meeting online these days, it's an important question! For Emma it was an old-fashioned rescue from a kind but physically intimidating friend. For Harry, it used to be something similar (exceptperhaps for the intimidating part!) but both agreed that these days, a dose of upfront honesty is probably best - it's socially acceptable today to say: "I just don't think this is working" and part ways respectfully.
Finally – one that she will actually enjoy! This week Emma will be meditating: sitting quietly with no distraction and staring at the carpet for 4 minutes. Will she stay awake? We’ll find out on Tuesday!
This is a fun one! RANT! Go outside with your phone and rant for 10 minutes. Rage at your ex if you like. All bets are off with this one. VENT!
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...and yes, some men DO want a mum-replacement as a wife. I know, I've lived it. And I know women that are looking for a fatherfigure. There are unmet needs in both camps
Hello Emma and Harry. Emma, you just can't be cancelled from the podcast - you add such sweet, light, loving and fun things in. Not that Harry is the opposite, but you are different and your direct, heartfelt, honest responses are pure gold. And I just love your smile and laughter. Your friendship shows and your perspectives adds so much to the podcast. I hope Harry is aware of this and pays you well! :) I bet he is. You are such a wonderful, beautiful woman, warm, alive and present. About Escsperooms- I love them! Btw, it must be a perfect place for a first date: you get to see skills of working together, stress-balance, anger management, problemsolving, toleranse, patiente, sharing, listening... 😁 And Emma: great work on pausing and making room to resond and not just react. When we change our behaviour, others reacts differently, so they change too. People influence eachother and its important to be aware of that I think. It is true that the only person you can change, is yourself, but both perspectives are true nonetheless. About profilepics that are filtered and unreal: I tend to look shorter in pics (not datingapps, but elsewhere) so people get surpriced I'm taller 😆 and I'm about your height 😁 Can you plz explain the frase "high valued men"? I'm not fluint in English expressions
What an absolute man-child! That level of immaturity in a partner is exhausting. Chloe sounds fabulous and I think she’s had a lucky escape. I hope she can rebuild her confidence and find happiness.
Hi Harry and Emma,
I was heartbroken hearing Chloe's story. It is so so very similar to my own, even the house renovation. My soon-to-be ex-husband kept a satellite circle of exes, despite the numerous times I told him I didn't like it and found it disrespectful. He cheated on me, virtually, physically and emotionally. He had a big career change which he used as an excuse for his avoidant behaviour. He cheated on me 5 years ago and possibly many more that I didn't know about. We separated at the time, but then decided to give it another go. I don't regret my choice in that, but I would choose differently with hindsight. I didn't need to give him 5 more years (totalling 17 years altogether!). Eventually, as things have deteriorated over the past 12 months, I decided that I did not want to feel like this when I am 50, or 55, or 60. Since we separated he won't leave me alone and I've told him that I will not be joining the satellite circle! I am having to be so determined in keeping my boundary.
You both gave her such good advice. What I will share from my experience is STAND FIRM. Do the work to discover yourself. Enough is enough. I have adopted a mantra of back myself, not abandon myself. The other party and your own mind will play tricks on you. Whether consciously or not, they will use your own emotions against you to get what they want and try to make you doubt yourself. Remain aware to how your normal patterns will try to take you back to doing things in the way you have previously. Be as observant of yourself as you can, and check at every point, are you backing yourself or abandoning yourself? I chose me. Choose yourself, without guilt, Chloe. We're rooting for you!
Charlotte