Why am I drawn to avoidant people?

Avoidant partners often give you a little warmth, then pull back, and that rhythm keeps you hopeful and anxious at the same time. If you grew up having to work for love or keep someone close, the push and pull feels familiar, and familiar can feel a lot like chemistry. The attraction is real, but it's often your history recognising the pattern. The work is learning to read that spark as a warning light rather than a green one.