WHAT'S NEW
What I am working on
What has just landed, what is coming next, and where things are going. I update this when there is something worth saying.
Harry in the i Paper
My latest column is out, on why the apps made us fussy and a little greedy, and where to start if you're ready to put the phone down. There's a welcome for i Paper readers on the site until Wednesday.
Read the columnThe breakup survival kit
A new free page with everything I'd hand you if you walked in the day it ended: something for tonight, something for the first week, and something for the month after.
Open the kitThe Huddle is open
A members area. Two calls a month, one of them with an expert joining us. A private WhatsApp group. And somewhere to send a voice note when something happens and there is nobody to tell. £37 a month at the founding rate, and it stays at £37 for as long as you are a member.
Have a lookThis Morning discusses the i Paper piece about male friendship
The i Paper piece about male friendship, and the friend who rang at eleven at night because he had nobody else to call, discussed on This Morning.
A new column in the i Paper
About why all my close friends are women, and how men don't do friendship the way women do.
Read itA divorce lawyer answered thirty-four questions
Bhavna Radia gave up an evening to answer questions about money, what you are entitled to ask for, and how the process actually works. Eleven on the call, and another twenty-three she went away and answered in writing afterwards. The recording is up, chaptered so you can go straight to the question that matters to you rather than sitting through the whole thing, with her written answers underneath. Free to watch, whether you were there or not.
Watch itYou can write in your pack now
Wherever there is a journal prompt, there is now somewhere to write. It saves on its own as you go, so you can start something at eleven at night, close the tab, and pick it up on the bus three days later. If typing is not your thing, tap the microphone on your phone keyboard and talk instead. Nobody can read what you write there. Not me, not Rachel, nobody. That is not a promise, it is how the thing is built.
The free guides have moved
The four free guides are now proper pages rather than PDFs you have to download and lose. No Contact, Healing Anxious Attachment, No Contact When You Have Children Together, and a new one on the first eight weeks of dating someone. All free, all readable on a phone, nothing to sign up for.
Have a lookA free bilateral music track
The track from the No Contact guide now has its own page, so you are not landing in YouTube at two in the morning when you were trying to calm down. Headphones, both ears, and let it run. Bookmark it.
Have a lookA new column in the i Paper
About my father, and the forty years I spent answering a sentence my mother said to me when I was ten. From next month I'll be writing for them fortnightly.
Read itSend it here instead
There is now a page for the message you have written four times and not sent. You put it there instead, and you can say what you did instead of sending it, and read what everyone else nearly sent at two in the morning. Hundreds of them so far.
Where You Left Them, season four
The podcast is back for a fourth season. It's fortnightly now. (You'll notice we've updated the Podcast page here on the Website). Real stories from the people who follow us, and what we would actually do about them. Three seasons and forty one episodes are there to catch up on in the meantime.
Have a lookThe No Contact Pack gets five new videos
Five videos and five new written sections about my own experience of no contact. The eleven times I broke it, what was actually going on each time, and the twelfth attempt that held. Everyone who already owns the pack gets all of it free. The price rises to £59.99 when it lands.
Have a lookPause a pack, and jump to any day
Life gets in the way. You can now pause any pack from your dashboard and pick it up exactly where you left off, and nothing expires. You can also jump straight to any day you have unlocked rather than clicking through. Own several packs and only one runs at a time, so you are not getting four emails a morning.
The Betrayal Toolkit is on the site
Six modules on the specific shape of betrayal, which does not heal the same way a breakup does. Everything opens at once, no waiting. If you bought it on the old platform it is already in your dashboard, nothing to pay.
Have a lookA writing section
Essays and extracts from the column, in one place. Starting with a piece on betrayal and why we are not meant to recover from it.
Have a lookFront page of the i Paper, and a regular column
My first piece for the i Paper ran on the front page, about the eleven times I broke no contact. I now write a regular column for them.
Have a lookReclaim passes 100 members
The 30-day midlife rebuilding programme, with over a dozen expert contributors. Thank you to everyone who has trusted it.
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